Guarding your heart for DUMMIES like me

I’ve been learning a lot about guarding my heart from men. Its always been a strange and broad topic that I usually put on the back burner to figure out at a later time, but lately i’ve been forced to deal with it for my own heart’s sake. So i’ve compiled a list of practical steps based on my own experiences that has helped me… or I hope is helping me.

(This is from a girl’s perspective, sorry guys)

1. If you know he likes a song or a certain song reminds you of him, try not to listen to it. Listening to the song is like embedding him into your mind for 3 minutes at a time. Instead, listen to songs that remind you of your relationship with Jesus because you will probably end up listening to that stuff anyway if this guy breaks your heart.

2. Do not talk to him on the phone or chat with him into the wee hours of the morning. You’re probably tired and vulnerable and will most likely say things you don’t mean to say. Plus, a good guy would respect your sleep time… unless you’re an insomniac or something.

3. If he says something sweet and you catch yourself swooning, imagine him saying it to your mom.

4. If he’s really good looking, try not to stare so much. Getting distracted by his good looks is like a hot knife going through the shield of butter you’re trying to guard your heart with.

5. Use caution when encouraging him. Men are easily flattered and as women we like seeing them flattered and happy, so we use it as a weapon sometimes.

6. If he smells good….. don’t smell him.

7. If he says you look pretty, calm down and seriously ask him what else he likes and hope he says something legit about your character because one day you’ll probably be ugly. You keep him with what you catch him with.

8. Limit the one on one time you spend with him. In my opinion, wasting time with a guy is the best way a girl builds emotional attachments.

9. If you see him playing with kids…… RUN

10. Pray! This is the most important part. God is the best defender of your heart.

Sharing this has made me really wish it was possible to just type out a list on how to guard your heart or have some some formula to follow, but we all know it’s not that simple. The heart has ways I will never understand. I guess that’s the beauty of it.